Law & Order
There were many diaries which referred to child care arrangements,
which were often highly complicated.
- I spent
this day at home looking after 3 of my 5 children who were at home with a
tummy bug. I'm a graduate - my husband has a demanding career. I would
love to work outside the home and I have done at times, but I have no family
support to help out when the children are sick or on holiday from school (I
have not found playschemes to be very good and it is difficult to get a nanny
in a rural area like this). It is generally believed that in 2002 all women
have the freedom to combine family and career but this is not always possible.
- . . .
spoke with daughter - alone with young baby while husband on tour in Kosova.
at 7am. Got packed lunches ready for my wife and two sons. Walked them to
primary school. [Wife] went out to work as District nurse team manager. Returned
home after seeing boys to school. Had breakfast myself. My father came round
to help me paint the hall and stairs in our house. Joined by my mother for
lunch. Continued with decorating until I met both boys from school at 3.30pm.
One went to his friend's house to play, while the other played out with
his friends. Finished decorating for the day, talked with wife and son about
their days. Went to play 5-a-side soccer at local leisure centre between 7-8
pm. Returned home. Put sons to bed with [wife], watched TV till 11pm. Fed
our kitten and cat before going to bed.
Another diarist was a childminder with children of her own.
||Got up out of bed. Had a
wash and got dressed.
||Went downstairs to get the
breakfast while dad dressed the children.
|| Thomas arrived. Put all
the children into the car and took Jemma to school which is where I collect
|| Back at home a friend called
with her child. Had a coffee and a chat. Children played.
|| They went home. Max had
his breakfast. Other children had a drink and biscuit. Max then went to
sleep. Played with the other children.
|| Another friend arrived.
Made the children some dinner. Had a coffee.
|| My friend went. Cleaned
up the dinner things and did a bit of housework.
|| Thomas and Max went home.
|| Rhianne went to sleep.
Did some more housework.
|| Rhianne woke up. Put her
in car. Went to get Jemma from school.
|| Went to pick Lucy up as
she had gone to play at someone's house.
||Caroline arrived to cut
||Kids had a bath.
||Kids had tea. After that
they played for a bit.
|| Children went to bed. I
had some tea. Rhianne went home. Watched a bit of TV.
|| Went on the computer to
do a bit of my NVQ work.
||Had a bath then went to
Another frequent reference was by grandparents taking care
of their grandchildren while the parents went out to work.
- Tomorrow I sleep at my daughter's
house while she goes to do a course. She has 3 difficult boys so today is
the day I do not look forward to tomorrow.
Another, who is a teacher, makes an uncomfortable discovery:
- Phoned my daughter to see
how my grandson was. Somehow he's learned to say the word "f**k"-
he's 18 months! She thought it was hilarious and so did her boyfriend,
so he kept repeating it. I think of the embarrassment of a teacher's
grandson shouting this out at the local Co-op (possibly in front of my pupils!)
Some more grandparent's diaries can be seen
here. And that of
a mother widowed at a young age can be seen here